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Insight of the Day
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Crystal of the Day
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Barb McLaughlin
Jan 13, 2025
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Today's Learning
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Barb McLaughlin
Jan 13, 2025
From Karma Gaia Using Shadow Work to Transform Old Relationship Patterns If you’ve ever felt like your love life is trapped in a time loop—same arguments, same breakups, same heartbreak—shadow work might be your hero in shining armor. Think of it as shining a flashlight on the hidden corners of your mind. Those cobwebs of past experiences, childhood wounds, and unspoken fears have been quietly running the show, nudging you to repeat old relationship patterns like clockwork. What Is Shadow Work, Anyway? Imagine you’ve got a secret basement where you stash anything you find awkward, embarrassing, or painful about yourself. Shadow work is simply venturing into that basement, turning on the lights, and seeing what’s behind those boxes labeled “Old Baggage” and “Never-Again Moments.” When you’re brave enough to face what’s inside, you free yourself from the hidden beliefs that keep you stuck. How Does It Help? 1. Spot the Pattern: First, notice when you’re replaying the same story: different partner, same script. Shadow work helps you see the bigger picture. 2. Own Your Triggers: Maybe it’s jealousy, fear of abandonment, or a craving for validation. Once you name it, you can tame it. 3. Rewrite the Script: With awareness comes freedom. Shadow work gives you the power to choose new thoughts, actions, and outcomes. Where to Start * Journaling: Ask yourself, “What do I fear the most in relationships?” or “When was the first time I felt rejected?” * Meditation: Even a few minutes of quiet can reveal emotional whispers begging for attention. * Talk It Out: Share insights with a trusted friend, partner, or therapist for a fresh perspective. By taking a peek into your own personal “basement,” you’ll uncover what’s been fueling those all-too-familiar relationship hiccups. And once you bring those shadows into the light, you’ll be free to step into a healthier, happier love life—no repeats required.
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Image of the Day
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Barb McLaughlin
Jan 13, 2025
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Daily Affirmation
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Barb McLaughlin
Jan 13, 2025
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Zen Habits
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Barb McLaughlin
Jan 13, 2025
From https://zenhabits.net/ Sometimes, Instead of Punishing Yourself, Let Your Heart Lead You Most of us come from a culture that normalizes punishing ourselves as a way to improve ourselves. Do better, be better, look better — and do it by forcing yourself to do things you don't want to do. I'm not a fan. And it doesn't work very well. Yes, it can work for a little while. But eventually, we run out of the energy required to force ourselves over and over to do things we really don't want to do. And then we punish ourselves when we fail to do it. And the cycle repeats, making ourselves feel worse and worse about ourselves, and losing trust in ourselves in the process. So what can we do instead? How about: let your heart sing, and lead you? Letting your heart sing isn't something most people do — it means doing things that give you joy, finding moments of awe in the everyday, finding play and love in the activities you're already doing, and being open to discovery. We don't do that enough. Letting your heart lead you is something almost no one does — it means letting yourself do, throughout the day, the things that your heart wants to do. If you feel like moving your body in a playful way, do it! If you feel like playing a video game, or calling a friend, or sitting in silence watching the wind blow through the trees ... do it! That doesn't mean you can shirk all of your duties. But if you let your heart lead you, you might be surprised at how fun it can be to choose into your duties when your heart feels open to it. with love, Leo Babauta Zen Habits
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Insight of the Day
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Crystal of the Day
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Barb McLaughlin
Jan 11, 2025
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Barb McLaughlin
Jan 11, 2025
From Karma Gaia Rewire Your Mind: 5 CBT Techniques That Can Transform Your Life in a Week Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is all about training your brain to think and act in ways that support better mental health. By making small, intentional shifts in how you process thoughts and feelings, you can notice big changes—sometimes in just seven days. Below are five tried-and-tested CBT techniques you can start practicing right now. 1. Thought Records One of the cornerstones of CBT is learning to catch and challenge negative thoughts. Start by jotting down your unhelpful thoughts (e.g., “I always mess up”). Then, look for evidence for and against these thoughts. Often, you’ll find the negative assumption is exaggerated or untrue, which helps you see situations more clearly. 2. Cognitive Restructuring Once you’ve spotted a negative thought pattern, the next step is to replace it with a more balanced perspective. For instance, if you catch yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough,” reframe it to: “I have strengths and weaknesses like everyone else, and I can improve by practicing.” This switch may feel awkward at first but gets easier with repetition. 3. Behavioral Activation Feeling stuck or unmotivated? Identify small, enjoyable tasks you can add to your day—like taking a 10-minute walk, cooking a favorite meal, or texting a friend. This simple strategy breaks the cycle of low mood and inactivity by reintroducing pleasure and purpose into your routine. 4. Progressive Muscle Relaxation Stress can cause physical tension without you even realizing it. Take a few minutes each day to systematically tense and then relax different muscle groups—from your toes up to your shoulders. This reduces tension and trains your body to respond to stress in a calmer way. 5. Goal-Focused Planning Pick a small goal—one that can be achieved in a week—to give yourself a sense of accomplishment. Write down clear, measurable steps to reach it. As you check off each step, you’ll build self-confidence and gather evidence that you can handle challenges more effectively than you might think. By practicing these five CBT techniques daily, you’ll develop a more resilient mindset. Remember that progress often starts with small but consistent steps. In just a week, you could be looking at life with a healthier, more empowering perspective.
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Barb McLaughlin
Jan 11, 2025
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Barb McLaughlin
Jan 11, 2025
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